Optical Illusions of the Blind

“I feel like I can’t trust what I see,” I told the occupational therapist who was teaching me how to be visually impaired and productive. “You’re right; you can’t,” she answered—which was not the answer I was looking for. After having a stroke that took part of my vision, I discovered that brains don’t like […]

Lucky is as Lucky Does

“You’re so lucky!” We say this to others frequently. But what are we really saying? We are telling them that the sacrifices they made, the courage they exhibited, and the work they put into whatever it is that we envy doesn’t matter. It’s inconsequential. It was only luck that got them where they are. And […]

Is Death Better Than This?

“If this is still happening in January,” I said (to no one), “I’m going to kill myself.” It was August 2013, and I was having one of my exhaustion spells, as I called them. I’d had a stroke in March that had left me with partial blindness and cognitive issues around vision. I couldn’t drive […]

My Stroke of Luck….or not?

Ten years ago today, I quit my job (as CFO of a billion dollar per year agency), left my emotionally abusive (second) husband, and enrolled in massage school. Everyone thought I was crazy. Hell, I thought I was crazy! But something spoke to me and told me it was what I needed to do. When […]