Pushing Vs Punishing (Love Yourself, People!)

We are in a society where being competitive is validated, and there’s nothing wrong with that. Being competitive, and pushing yourself to be a better runner, worker, partner, parent, or person is an important part of life and growth. But when pushing yourself to be better becomes punishing yourself because you’re not “good enough,” that’s […]

Optical Illusions of the Blind

“I feel like I can’t trust what I see,” I told the occupational therapist who was teaching me how to be visually impaired and productive. “You’re right; you can’t,” she answered—which was not the answer I was looking for. After having a stroke that took part of my vision, I discovered that brains don’t like […]

Lucky is as Lucky Does

“You’re so lucky!” We say this to others frequently. But what are we really saying? We are telling them that the sacrifices they made, the courage they exhibited, and the work they put into whatever it is that we envy doesn’t matter. It’s inconsequential. It was only luck that got them where they are. And […]

Wisdom from the Ocean

In doing research for a book I’m writing, I’ve been reading some old journals. This is a very meaningful entry from June of 2005, just before I quit my high falutin’ CFO job and started massage school. At the end of my morning walk on the beach, I felt an almost religious affinity with the […]

The “Red Zone” Life

One Sunday, I was watching football with my boyfriend and his sons. We were watching on something called the Red Zone Channel. In football, the red zone is the area within 20 yards of a team’s end zone, so when a team is in the red zone, there is a higher probability that they will […]

I Do Weird Stuff

I do weird stuff. I spend the first two weeks of each year eating a vegan diet. I buy organic foods, and try not to eat out too much. I ran 5 miles this morning, without being chased. I do Yoga. I don’t turn on the TV in the daytime. (Wouldn’t turn it on at […]